1.24.2012

I want to give a shout out:

To my amazing friends who have lent me a helping hand and great advice (especially this past week).

To my family, who plays phone tag with me for two days just to listen to me rant about everything has happened in the last ten days.

To JMU, who has showed me what it it really means to have a home away from home.

To my brothers and sisters, who make me smile when I ever I hear their voice on the other end of the phone.

To myself, for learning it is actually okay to cry sometimes.

But most importantly:

To my God. Who has given me two weeks of a lot of blessings, and just many stings. Usually, at this point I would be exhausted and would want to give up. But you have seen my heart and my desire to stay in love with you, and you have blessed me more than I can ever imagine. Amazing opportunities have been granted. Growth has been received through a few trials. And perspective has been gained, and I have been humbled. And all in two weeks. I can truly and honestly say that I have never been more in love with Jesus Christ than I am right now. I have never not loved you, but my love has grown so much lately that I cannot just sit here and hold it in any longer.


So pretty much, I feel like this:


Amen.

1.17.2012

"That" Video

I'm a writing tutor at my school. And, I remember taking the class to learn about what it takes to be a tutor, and all of the theories surrounding the idea of teaching someone to write. One of biggest concepts we had to learn about was the constant fear of students being told that their paper is bad. Writing, no doubt, is a personal thing and strongly connected to your sense of self. And to walk into a writing center and be told that you have dozens of mistakes, and that you need to fix this and change that, it sucks. It can be offensive and almost feel like an attack, especially if the essay is about something near to their heart.

So as tutors, we have several options to approach that fear, while still helping them improve their writing process.  One option would be to focus on the positive aspects of the paper, and develop them, rather than point out every error and make the student feel self-conscious. Or, as another option, you could point out one mistake that you continuously see and show them how to fix it. Then, have them go through the paper themselves, and change the mistakes on their own, to give them a sense of independence, and overall confidence that they do in fact know how to write a paper. Or, you could even just start a conversation with them, and they will talk on and on, and eventually, after listening to themselves, will figure out on their own how to fix their paper. And, might I add, without a single comment from you, other than rhetorical questions that make them think harder.

If you tutor correctly, and the if the student has a true desire to learn, there is no negativity. No arguing. No sense of a lack of independence. And the student doesn't feel stupid. And they leave actually learning something and more confident about their paper than they did before they walked in.

This rant has a point, I promise.

Many of you have probably seen the viral video on YouTube called "Why I Hate Religion, but Love Jesus." Honestly, when I saw this video, I was humbled by it. To me, it seems like he is talking about the lack of trust and obedience in Jesus, and the overall sense of hypocrisy of organized, legalistic religions. Of course, like every other human being in this world, there are a few flaws in the video. Some argue that he is not using the right terms; that he should be saying hypocrisy, and not religion. That there are more to wars than religious beliefs. That he said this wrong or that he said that wrong, and blah blah blah. There are dozens of blogs, articles, and videos responding to this video and calling the guy stupid, dumb, unchristian, etc.

But, here is my question: Why should we even be arguing at all?

People, including myself, walk around parading the name of Jesus Christ. Yet, the moment someone offers a bold statement or differing opinion, or even incorrect information, we confront it with hate, anger, and argumentation. We love to love our own beliefs, and we love to hate people who don't agree with our beliefs. It is a sad, disheartening cycle that I have seen over and over again.

Now, don't think that I am not advocating telling the truth and gospel of Jesus Christ. If someone needs to know the love of Christ, I am not saying you should back down and let them live in lies and incorrect information. No. I am not saying that at all.

This is what I am saying: We are approaching people with differing opinions, numerous questions, and skewed information in all the wrong ways.

If a student were to walk in the writing center and did not know how to use a comma correctly, and had comma splices all throughout their paper, would you expect me to raise my voice? Would you expect me to throw the latest version of the MLA handbook and say "Are you dumb? Do you not read? It's right there in black and white!" Would you expect me to ignore their mistakes and just let them use the commas incorrectly, just because I didn't want offend them? Would you expect me to write an entire paper in response to theirs to prove that they did everything wrong? No, of course not. All of those answers are no.

Yet, why are we approaching the most holy, and Biblical truth there is (Jesus Christ) like that? Witnessing to other people, correcting your brothers and sisters in Christ, and approaching people with differing opinions should be no different than a tutoring session. We should approach the conflicting views in the same way we were taught as tutors to approach a tutoring session. We should focus on the positive, help them learn how to correct themselves, or offer support as they figure it out on their own. We should learn the reasoning behind their beliefs, answer any questions with grace, and show them the Biblical proof. We should not call them stupid, we should not judge and dissect every statement they say, and we sure as heck should not get angry with them just because they don't know something.

Here are some verses to illustrate what I am trying to say:

1 Peter 3:15-16: "But in your hearts honor Christ the Lord as holy, always being prepared to make a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you; yet do it with gentleness and respect, having a good conscience, so that, when you are slandered, those who revile your good behavior in Christ may be put to shame."


2 Timothy 2:22-26 "Flee the evil desires of youth and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart. Don’t have anything to do with foolish and stupid arguments, because you know they produce quarrels. And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful. Opponents must be gently instructed, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth, and that they will come to their senses and escape from the trap of the devil, who has taken them captive to do his will."


2 Timothy 3:10-17 "You, however, know all about my teaching, my way of life, my purpose, faith, patience, love, endurance, persecutions, sufferings—what kinds of things happened to me in Antioch, Iconium and Lystra, the persecutions I endured. Yet the Lord rescued me from all of them. In fact, everyone who wants to live a godly life in Christ Jesus will be persecuted, while evildoers and impostors will go from bad to worse, deceiving and being deceived. But as for you, continue in what you have learned and have become convinced of, because you know those from whom you learned it, and how from infancy you have known the Holy Scriptures, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus. All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the servant of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work."


Philippians 2:1-11 "Therefore if you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any common sharing in the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and of one mind. Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.

In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus:


 Who, being in very nature[a] God, 
   did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage; 
 rather, he made himself nothing 
   by taking the very nature[b] of a servant, 
   being made in human likeness. 
And being found in appearance as a man, 
   he humbled himself 
   by becoming obedient to death— 
      even death on a cross!"

This video is bold. Powerful. That man in the video has one hundred times the amount of boldness than most Christians have. Yes, there is a difference between true religion and the religion he is talking about. But, at least give him credit for trying to preach the name of Jesus Christ to millions of people on YouTube. Of course he is not perfect, and there are some misuses of terminology and such. But if you disagree with him or have issues with some of his arguments, don't go around proudly arguing about it with other people. Make sure you have Biblical proof for anything you want to say. That is how people need to be responding to this video, with curiosity and love. Not hate and judgement.

And, to be honest, many people are looking at the controversy surrounding this video and being more turned off from Christ. Not because of what the video said, but because of the comments being posted below it. The factions, arguments, hate, and anger makes it seem like Christianity is nothing but a set of confusing beliefs, and that you choose which beliefs work best for you, and that you just hate everyone else who doesn't believe the same. If we are acting like that, we are not representing our Savior properly...at all.

2 Corinthians 5:16-21 "So from now on we regard no one from a worldly point of view. Though we once regarded Christ in this way, we do so no longer. Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here! All this is from God, who reconciled us to himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation: that God was reconciling the world to himself in Christ, not counting people’s sins against them. And he has committed to us the message of reconciliation. We are therefore Christ’s ambassadors, as though God were making his appeal through us. We implore you on Christ’s behalf: Be reconciled to God. God made him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God." 

We ARE Christ's ambassadors.

Acts 20:28 "Keep watch over yourselves and all the flock of which the Holy Spirit has made you overseers. Be shepherds of the church of God, which he bought with his own blood."

We can't be shepherds of the church of God if we are all just arguing all the time.

1.02.2012

A Reflection of 2011

So here are a few photos of some of the more significant events of 2011. Here's to hoping 2012 is awesome!

My first official semester as an SAO sister, REPRESENT! :)

Snow madness, and a 500+ person snowball fight on the Quad. I feared for my life.

Awesome Quad days. My absolute favorite thing about JMU.

Going on Spring retreat with SAO. I was a little hesitant to jump into the literally freezing cold lake.

My favorite dance party so far at JMU, the IV semi-formal. It was in a sparkly barn. Enough said.

Lots of hair whipping.

Saying goodbye to Shorts Hall. Sad day.

Lots and lots of beach time! :)

Brynnlee Camille Dalton was born, a.k.a. the happiest baby in the world.

Fun weekend for Nat's graduation, complete with games, hiking, river swimming, and traveling chaos.

Muddy fun in the Oasis.

Shark fishing. Careful, he bites!

Ke$ha concert!

Had to say goodbye to my best friend. Miss you Jakey :(

Getting my car totaled...yeah, that was fun. But, I just got a new one. YAYYY!

My brother got really sick. This was the first time he sat up.

Four Weddings: My aunt Karen, Kaitlin and Mike, Ryan and Abby, and my cousin Whitney and Dave.

Nat's first semester at JMU! :)

New Apartment! :)

Signing a lease for Copper for next year with these crazy peeps! :)

Going back to Lake Anna for retreat, this time MUCH warmer ;)

Recruitment silliness :)

New baby Deltas! DOVE LOVE! :)

I got a LITTLE! <3 <3 <#

Apple Picking :)

Hiking :)

Fun Halloween costumes :)

EAGLES GAME!

Little sister got 1st place at fire prevention, and Connor and Jared are both black belts!

I passed Spanish! Praise!

1.01.2012

How Do I Spend New Years?



Well for starters, I headed over to Erin's house and was greeted by her father who gave me big hug, Erin, who gave me an even bigger hug, and Erin's mother, who gave me food. That's always a good thing. It was some type of yummy olive and tomato relish on a baget, which I dropped on the floor as soon as I tried to put in my mouth. Fail. 

Then me and Erin headed out the door, as I grabbed a small piece of spicy shrimp sushi, to Ocean City for some dinner. We drove in Erin's car, Snowflake, who is slowly aging. Every time the doors lock, the car sounds like it lets out a huge fart. It scared the crap out of me every time. 

We decided to eat at Dumser's, which is one of our favorites. Chicken cheese steak, caesar salad, cheese fries, homemade vanilla Coke, and a rootbeer float to-go. Needless to say, we left with food babies. But of course, we didn't leave without giving the waitress a tip, which we left on the table as 10 individual dollar bills folded into intricate origami. Yes, we literally sat there for twenty minutes, reading how-to's on the internet to make those darn things. And it didn't go unnoticed. As we were paying up front, we watched the bus boy approach the table. As soon as he saw the money, he whipped his head around and made eye contact with us...and just laughed. 

Then was the Winterfest of Lights. With our ice cream floats still in hand, we rode the train. The strangest thing though was a couple two rows in front of us. They brought their large yellow lab on the train too. And he just sat there and looked at all the lights. Weird.

We got back to Erin's house and spend some time in the hot tub, and complained about how out of shape we were. But regardless of all the complaining, some how we ended up at Harris Teeter an hour later buying ingredients to bake a bunch of unneccesary stuff.

We made oreo and cream cheese truffles, topped with white chocolate and drizzled with dark chocolate. We made Nutella cupcakes, topped with cream cheese icing. And sugar cookies, at Erin's dad's request.
Of course, we a made mess and I learned one thing: it is really hard to put a food processor together. In between making desserts, we watched the TV of all the Times Square New Years stuff and watched the ball drop.

We ended the night with watching a little of the SNL reruns on TV. Now I am home listening to Otis Redding on Spotify while typing with one hand because my large, fat chocolate lab is asleep on the other. 

So, as you can tell, I am pretty wild and out of control. I rock New Years hard.

12.23.2011

Become as Little Children

I just spent the last two days helping my mother in her third grade classroom. Let me repeat that. I just spent the last two days helping my mother in her third grade classroom. I have one word for you: hyper. Oh muh gawrsh, those little eight and nine year olds are so fun. But good gracious, they have more energy than I did after drinking soda for the first time in a nine months. 

It really was fun though. The first day I just helped my mom with basic needs around the classroom. You know: cutting things, glueing things, cleaning. The works. The second half of the day my mom had her Christmas party and I got to help serve food, assist with crafts and play my guitar for them while they sang songs. First of all, they thought the song thing was awesome. It was hysterical. They all got up and screamed the Christmas songs at the top of their lungs. I didn't even have to sing.

The second day was their last day before Christmas break. Yeah, they were a tad excited and hyper. And loud. Oh yes, were they loud. But I must say, it was a lot different than the day before. The entire third grade had their Christmas around the world activity. Each third grade teacher's classroom was a different "country" and the kids traveled from classroom to classroom learning about how different countries celebrate the holidays. My mom's room was Germany. And, apparently in Germany, they have a pickle ornament that the parents hide on the tree, and the first kid to find the pickle on the tree gets an extra gift from Saint Nicholas. So they got to make their own pickle ornaments, which they loved. In real life, they are usually glass ornaments. But they made their own felt and paper ones that looked like this:



Literally, they thought that the pickle thing so cool. Then we let them try gingersnaps, because gingerbread is apparently popular in Germany. And then we sang two songs (while I played guitar again) that supposedly came from Germany: Silent Night and Oh Christmas Tree. It took all day, and my mom taught the lesson five different times to each class that came to her "country."

I think the funniest part of the entire was when my cousin Zach came in to help out too. His mom (my aunt) works at the same elementary school as a librarian, and he was helping her in the library. But when he got bored, he came to my moms room. And to make things even more complicated, my little sister, Olivia, was in one of the third grade classes that my mom taught. My parents are divorced, so my mom and my little sister are not related since Olivia is from my dad's second marriage. And my cousin Zach and I are related because of my mom's second marriage. Zach and I are really close in age, so the moment he walked in, I got a million questions. 

"Is that your boyfriend?!" 
"No."
"Oh, is that you're twin?"
"No."
"Oh. Is that you're brother?"
"No. That is my cousin."
"Are you Olivia's sister?"
"Yes."
"But Mrs. Stong (a.k.a. my mom) is not her mom!"
"You're right she is not. We have different moms."
"Then how are you sisters?!"
"Because we have the same dad."
"If you and Zach are cousins, are Zach and Olivia cousins?"
"No."
"Why?"
"Because we have different moms."
"Is Mrs. Murray (Zach's mom, my aunt) Olivia's aunt?"
"Nope."
"Why do you all have different last names?"
"It's a long story."
"I'm confused."

They were all sorts of confused. But they were laughing the entire time. They found it comical. I couldn't help but laugh too. I was cracking up. Because you half to admit, to a little kid, it is quite confusing. Heck, it's confusing to me as well. 

I love how humble little kids are. They find the smallest things entertaining, and find the simplest things hysterical. They aren't afraid to ask questions, or act completely silly. 

Matthew 18:3-4: And he said, "Assuredly, I say to you, unless you are converted and become as little children, you will by no means never enter the kingdom of heaven. Therefore whoever humbles himself as this little child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven."

Sometimes we get so caught up in the "big kid" things of our lives. We tend to thing of everything as complicated, hard, difficult, or organized. But sometimes we need to change our perspective, humble ourselves, and look at the world like little kids. Or like third graders who love singing songs, making homemade pickle ornaments, or find humor in a confusing family.

12.19.2011

I Want to Set the World on Fire

"I want to set the world on fire, 
Until it's burning bright for you.
It's everything that I desire,
Can I be the one you use?"

It's been said that a picture is worth a thousand words. Well, here is what I say: one word is worth a thousand thoughts, a dozen of emotions, and countless meanings. Words can be that little match that starts an entire forest fire. Can you imagine it? Saying something, or writing something, that makes people question not only themselves, but you as well?

Everyone has that moment in life that sticks with them forever. There is that one thing that someone said to you, or something that you heard, that has shaped your life in a way that seems almost absurd. And no, I am not talking about the obvious things-like graduating from school, or going on a missions trip. Those things will shape your life forever and it's obvious. No, I am talking about those small, insignificant sentences that someone blurts out at a random, everyday moment. It shoots you in the heart and the bullet never leaves.

For me, it was a sermon about God's love that I heard in high school at a huge Christian youth rally. The man speaking pulled out a genuine one-hundred dollar bill, held it up to the crowd of several thousand students and said, "Who wants it?" At first, everyone looked around, confused. He proceeded, "No, seriously, I found this money on the floor, and I feel bad for keeping it. So, who wants it?" Of course, everyone in the audience, especially those people lucky enough to be sitting up front, stood up and waved their hands spastically in the air.

"Are you sure you want it?" he asked. "I mean, I found it on the floor. It probably has been stepped on, and their is a lot of dirt on it." The spasitc hand waving didn't stop, and it had morphed into screaming. One kid, at this point, was even standing on his chair and screaming "DUDE, I WANT THE MONEY!"

The speaker licked the hundred dollar bill. "Do you still want it?" The screams didn't cease. Everyone still wanted that money, really bad.

At the time, I didn't know why, but the speaker took the hundred dollar bill, put it in his mouth and chewed it. He spit it out, and while it was covered in saliva, he flattened back out and held it up. "Do you still want it?" The screaming didn't cease. Even though the money was dripping in spit, the value was still there.

The speaker then took the dollar bill, and ripped it a little bit. A little down the middle, ripped the two of the corners off, and some other random places on the side. Ripped just enough to look scraggly, but not ripped enough to lose it's value. "Do you still want it?" he asked. The screaming did not cease.

The speaker then took out a lighter and burnt the edges a little bit. Again, the money was burnt, but not enough to lose it's value. "Do you still want it?" he asked. The screaming did not cease.

He continued like this for several minutes, slowly making that hundred dollar bill more and more tattered. But never enough that it lost it's value, and the audience only became more anxious, and wanted that money even more.

Eventually it stopped, and the speaker looked out in the audience. He said, "God treasures you. He wants you more than anything. And just like you wanted this money, no matter how tattered, or dirty, or scarred. God wants you, no matter how tattered, or dirty, or scarred. Just like you all were screaming for this money, God is screaming for you. He wants you." By that point, the screaming had ceased.

It hit me hard. They were only spoken words. But, nevertheless, the hit me hard. What that speaker had only planned as a creative illustration for God's love, had been the match to my forest fire. I have never forget that speaker, or what he said. It has kind of stuck with me ever since then.

I hope I can be like that to other people. Unlike that speaker, I may never be in the position to talk to thousands of people at once, but that doesn't mean that people aren't listening. Whatever you say is heard. Whatever I say, is heard. I hope I can be that small voice in other's people's lives that tells them truth.

But be warned, what you say is not heard as coming from just another person on the street. It is heard as coming from a Christian. So be aware, that whatever you say, whether good or bad, can be the match that starts someone's forest fire. And that can be a positive or a negative thing.

Like I said before, can you imagine saying something, or writing something, that makes people question not only themselves, but you as well? I put the emphasis on the "you as well." part. Claiming yourself as a Christian makes you one of two things in this world: a leader, or an enemy. People will look at you differently, so be conscious of everything you say and do, because, to other people, it is a reflection of what you stand for, a.k.a. Jesus Christ.

Ecclesiastes 5:2-4 "Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers." It simpler terms, that means, watch what you say, and only speak what will build and comfort others, because you never know who is listening in. And you never know how that will affect them and their future walk with Christ.

So from here on out, I say that we, together, make a pact to be true lights of God through our speech and actions. Just as Colossians 3:8 says, "But now you are to put off all these: anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, and filthy language out of your mouth."


Do you really want to give Jesus Christ a bad name by saying one small sentence and having it affect someone's life forever? 

Nope, I didn't think so. 


**I don't write this in a proud manner. I fail at this too often. I write this as humbly as possible. It is something I have reflected upon myself, and I wondered if others needed a helping hand as well.