"...because he knows he got me."

“We desire to possess a beauty that is worth pursuing, worth fighting for, a beauty that is core to who we truly are. We want beauty that can be seen; beauty that can be felt; beauty that affects others; a beauty all our own to unveil.” - Stasi Elredge, Captivating.

"Whatever happened to chivalry? Does it only exist in 80's movies? I want John Cusack holding a boombox outside my window. I wanna ride off on a lawnmower with Patrick Dempsey. I want Jake from Sixteen Candles waiting outside the church for me. I want Judd Nelson thrusting his fist into the air because he knows he got me." - Easy A

The infamous genre of chick flicks has an ever so annoying way of making us feel like we are unworthy of a truly chivalrous love story. We look at the lead character and think, "Wow, she is beautiful." We eye-candy the male lead and can't help but wonder, "Why is he so perfect? How is it that he does everything so perfect?!"

A woman's heart is a difficult concept to master. Men, of course, find it confusing. But contrary to popular belief, I don't think a woman herself truly understands her self either.

But it all lies with one desire--there is deep and underlying desire in every woman to be of worth. To have a sense of treasure and value that is worth fighting for. 

Why, then, do you think there are countless books and movies with stories of a hero saving a woman, or a man longing for the girl next door? It is because men have it bred into them to be a hero and a protector.  And woman have it bred into them to be desired and irreplaceable.

It makes sense if you think about it.

Guys are notoriously known for liking things that give them worth through heroism and dominance: sports,  superheroes, action movies, video games, labor based jobs. It gives them a sense of control. Not in a bad way, but in a way that makes them feel like they have a say, that they are protecting, and that they are a leader.

Meanwhile, girls are infamously known for things that make them feel beautiful, valuable, and vulnerable: chick flicks, clothes, motherhood, wedding planning, shopping, heart-to-heart conversations. Women need that sense of value in their life to prove to themselves that they are worth fighting. Either they fill their lives with things that make them physically or emotionally more "valuable. Or they put their selves in a fictional character's shoes to see what it would feel like to truly be fought for.

It all comes together, too. What would a hero be without his damsel in distress? And what would be the point of a man's fight, without that perfect girl waiting for him on the other side?

That's truly all that any girl really wants out of love.

To be of worth. To be fought for. To feel valuable. To feel important to someone else on this earth.